Breaking Out Of the Rut

ASSUME
responsibility for your own life.
Refuse to be either an excuser (rationalize failure)
or an accuser (blame others).

BELIEVE
you can change!
Stop saying "I can't" and start saying "I can."

CLARIFY
what you really want.
Write down specifically how you'd like to change.

DON'T WAIT
for ideal circumstances.
Stop saying "When things settle down..." Do it now!
"One of these days" is really none of these days.

- Rick Warren -

Guide to T.A. Office Hours

Shouting Creates Distance

ONCE a professor asked his students: “Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?” The students thought for a while before one of them said: “We shout because we lose our calm.”

“But why shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?”

The students gave various answers, none of which satisfied the professor.

Finally he explained: “When two people are angry with each other, their hearts distance. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.”

Then he asked: “What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small.

“When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak – they only whisper and get closer to each other in their love.

“Finally they do not even need to whisper. They only look at each other, that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.”

So, when you argue, do not let your hearts get distant or say words that distance each other even more, or there may come a day when the distance is so great you will not find the path back to each other.

- The Star -

Never...

Lose one moment of time,
to improve it in the most profitable way I can.

Do anything I should despite or think
meanly of in another.

Do anything out of revenge.

Do anything that I should be afraid to do it
were the last hour of my life.

- Jonathan Edwards -

Grad School Energy Levels

Love Is...

SLOW TO SUSPECT...quick to trust.

SLOW TO CONDEMN...quick to justify.

SLOW TO OFFEND...quick to defend.

SLOW TO REPRIMAND...quick to forbear.

SLOW TO BELITTLE...quick to appreciate.

SLOW TO DEMAND...quick to give.

SLOW TO PROVOKE...quick to conciliate.

SLOW TO HINDER...quick to help.

SLOW TO RESENT...quick to forgive.

- Barbara Johnson -

Net Effect of Vacation

Meaningful Phrases - Calendar 2011

Here are some meaningful phrases that I found from a 2011 calendar which I would like to share it with you...

January - No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.

February - The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.

March - You may be disappointed if you fail; you are doomed if you never take the first step.

April - if you wish to reach the highest, begin at the lowest.

May - Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety percent perspiration.

June - Better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.

July - You don't pay the price for success. You enjoy the price for success.

August - He who ask a question may be a fool for five minutes, but he who never ask a question remains a fool forever.

September - I have learned to seek happiness by limiting my desires. rather than attempting to satisfy them.

October - Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become.

November - A mediocre idea that generates enthusiasm will go further than a great idea that inspires no one.

December - Destiny is not a matter of chance, but of choice. Not something to wish for, but to attain.